You just got SERVED!



I must say there is seldom nothing more enjoyable than having the truth come out of no where and catch people completely off guard. Couple that with an environment where it can’t be escaped from or rejected because it’s mandatory to listen makes for pure bliss. I was privy to watching this recently, and it was orchestrated in such a way that it had to have been divine intervention. I mean literally one by one a table of individuals were “read” (told about themselves), with no “clap back” (response) to be found. See, the environment did not accommodate ignorance, which in turn did not provide an opportunity for the common below the belt tactics to be used.

Whether the messenger is familiar, or someone we trust plays a major part in how receptive of the truth we tend to be. Responses like “they don’t know me”, are typically given as a defense if the person is thought to not have a full grasp of the situation to pick sides. But, what stands out to me is a messenger who may not know us at all could be the most effective with the delivery of the message. What makes them more credible is they have nothing to loose by telling you the truth. There is no emotional attachment, so they can see through a facade quicker. Often it is the people who are co-dependent on our company, our money, and resources that will most likely bend the truth to accommodate the relationship.

Being “read” has the possibility of coming at us from any angle, and from any person, at any time. Ultimately, it is up to us to decide once exposed, do we make those dreadful changes or do we stay comfortably in denial? The choice is ours. I’ve recently made a commitment to serving and being willing to be served…politely and wisely of course.

After all, it is my God given civic duty, lol.

Rachel Bryant Lundy

The SCARIEST Word of All



Change, whoever thought that the truth would be necessary to do it? To be honest with you, I didn’t. This could be why in the past the change I’ve claimed I wanted never happened. I wasn’t intentionally lying to myself about what I needed to do differently, I just chose to believe what I was most comfortable admitting. Thankfully, when you are truly desperate and determined to put an end to what has been holding you back, any previous commitments to false reasoning is significantly weakened.

To purposefully embark on this journey, a healthy dose of ego checking is crucial. See, even if change promises immediate improvement in our lives, we still have to admit that for some time we have been doing things the wrong way, or there was a better way to do them. This can be very hard to accept, especially considering the amount of time we possibly spent convincing ourselves that our previous choices were justified. Not to mention, all the people that we defended ourselves to now will have the privilege of watching us eat our words…ouch. On the other hand, how many times have we decided to stay the same after we knew better,  just to avoid criticism, and be able to continue giving the impression that we weren’t wrong? Too many.

When considering moving forward with change, it is easy to be discouraged at the thought of any uncomfortable moments that may lie ahead. Do not be intimidated by them, there is too much to be gained. The fact is that when you decide to change for the better, you inspire others to as well. It takes a lot of courage to grow in an area that many assumed would never be possible.

Taking this step shows that we are no longer willing to not hold ourselves accountable to fixing what we know we should.  And, that we won’t be controlled by the opinions of people, or what is convenient. Yes, committing to change will require us to do things differently when we are scared, tired, and just plain don’t want to. But each time we do, we become stronger, and ultimately victorious in an area that once had us defeated.


Rachel Bryant Lundy


no change


This is the most excited and peaceful I’ve ever felt about a year coming to an end, with a new one beginning. It is probably because I don’t want to radically transform my life. I’m only interested in progress connected to what I’ve already started, and growth from lessons learned. When put that way, there is a lot less pressure I feel on becoming the person that I will eventually be. While there is never a more opportune time than a new year to give us motivation to let go of what has proven to not be beneficial, there are plenty of valuable experiences from 2014 that I am taking with me.

It’s true that planning what you want to be different in 2015 is a practical approach to having this year be better than the last. But, I also want to encourage you to equally reflect on what you have made improvement in that is helping you at this very moment. It is important to acknowledge how much we have evolved and that we are on the right track. Many of us have developed the ability to thrive in dysfunction and survive major setbacks that could have broken weaker people, and that should be recognized.

There will always be room for improvement in one area or another, so I’m not concerned with the symbolism of getting a clean slate or a fresh start. It may be a new year, but I am simply picking up where 2014 left off.

That makes me happier than any resolution I could make.



Happy New Year!

Rachel Bryant Lundy