Change, whoever thought that the truth would be necessary to do it? To be honest with you, I didn’t. This could be why in the past the change I’ve claimed I wanted never happened. I wasn’t intentionally lying to myself about what I needed to do differently, I just chose to believe what I was most comfortable admitting. Thankfully, when you are truly desperate and determined to put an end to what has been holding you back, any previous commitments to false reasoning is significantly weakened.
To purposefully embark on this journey, a healthy dose of ego checking is crucial. See, even if change promises immediate improvement in our lives, we still have to admit that for some time we have been doing things the wrong way, or there was a better way to do them. This can be very hard to accept, especially considering the amount of time we possibly spent convincing ourselves that our previous choices were justified. Not to mention, all the people that we defended ourselves to now will have the privilege of watching us eat our words…ouch. On the other hand, how many times have we decided to stay the same after we knew better, just to avoid criticism, and be able to continue giving the impression that we weren’t wrong? Too many.
When considering moving forward with change, it is easy to be discouraged at the thought of any uncomfortable moments that may lie ahead. Do not be intimidated by them, there is too much to be gained. The fact is that when you decide to change for the better, you inspire others to as well. It takes a lot of courage to grow in an area that many assumed would never be possible.
Taking this step shows that we are no longer willing to not hold ourselves accountable to fixing what we know we should. And, that we won’t be controlled by the opinions of people, or what is convenient. Yes, committing to change will require us to do things differently when we are scared, tired, and just plain don’t want to. But each time we do, we become stronger, and ultimately victorious in an area that once had us defeated.
Rachel Bryant Lundy