The Real Housewives of POTOMAC: Really?

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In the words of a notorious hater, except my feelings are genuine, “I’m not hating, I’m not hating!” I just don’t understand why the show is necessary for this caliber of women to be on.

I’m against any type of elitism. Yes, there are parts of all these reality shows that emphasize a have and have not mentality. But, this recent show specifically brings light to a supposedly well kept, small, predominately black affluent neighborhood in Potomac, MD. It’s made clear that it takes money to move in, connections to be in the “in crowd” and rules to follow to maintain it. Chile please. I would never fit in, because I would never allow myself to be dictated by other people with no true insight of their morals, and values, simply because my opinion of them is dictated by their wallet. Frankly it’s nauseating, because even though these women are “well to do”, they seem to be more controlled by the money they have with no real freedom at all.

On top of that all of the cast members look alike, except for one. It’s a little too “brown paper baggy” for me. Of course you have a woman like myself that’s in her 30’s that is extremely confident and can handle a network not choosing to look harder to have a better variety of women on the show. But, every now and again I remember the 17 year old in me that wouldn’t have taken the lack of diversity in the skin tones of black women that well. She was constantly trying to figure out where she fit in due to so many people reminding her that because of complexion and length of hair, she didn’t. That is until those same people had their own kids and what do you know….

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I’m not going to pick on anyone of these women individually in an attempt to single them out. I just wonder is this fame game and the price you pay to stay entertaining, even if you come off as the one that has the most sense out the bunch still worth it. We all know how these shows work. If you come off bad, you will look worse, and if you come off okay the plot lines in the upcoming seasons will revolve around showing how much you aren’t. Scandal keeps people watching.

Listen, I’m no dummy. I know that shows like this can often assist in the launching of make up lines, books, and clothing lines for SOME, and hopefully the business success can be for the long term. Unfortunately, for the other women who will end up being casualties of war, here’s to hoping you have a plan B.

I am ready, willing, and able to eat my words at anytime and I wish these women much success. However the trailer Bravo put together reeks of boredom, ratchery, stereotypical conversations about topics even the housewives don’t care about or else they wouldn’t be on the show. So, please don’t come for my critique, instead come for their editing. And no, I’m not expecting Bravo TV to suddenly become socially conscious, but  I do expect these women to know better because I know they do.

If given the opportunity, would I be on the show? Possibly, if I had nothing else to do. IJS.

Check out the trailer below.

Rachel Bryant Lundy


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My post this week was going to be about Spring cleaning, but it will have to wait. For some reason I cannot stop finding the opinionated, headline making, soon to be pop culture icon Amber Rose interesting. She keeps my attention more than cleaning so she wins. I never intentionally look for her, but when she ends up on my newsfeed or if I hear about something she’s involved in, she never disappoints. The replies she gives to her critics are audacious and humorous. Not to mention she has pretty thick skin, and is able to take the kind of insults that would make many hide under the covers for days until people forget, but she instead quickly uses them to her advantage. And, of course how could I not love that after she finishes “schooling” her biggest critics online, she lovingly signs her post “Muva”.

What I admire most about Amber is that this African, European, and Italian chick doesn’t conveniently fade into the background just because she’s not a favorite, or at times even liked at all. She’s a bit of a problem child, and that I can relate to. While I’ve never been a former stripper, there are many times I’ve chosen not to conform, follow the masses, or let past mistakes get in my way. She doesn’t mind being unpopular and she doesn’t run from people or situations that are stacked against her because of the bias support they give to her rivals. Ms. Rose refuses to be the only one in a room full of “wrongs” to apologize, just so everyone can get back to business as usual. This mentality hasn’t been seen often in a female, it’s one that will only take responsibility for their issues, and you dare not trick them into carrying anyone else’s. One can only wonder how different things could have turned out for Monica Lewinsky? If she only would have seen things this way, stood up to the President, and not allow society to shame her while the man involved is idolized? Thank goodness it’s no longer the 90’s.

This is increasingly becoming a world where there are so many people famous for nothing, or only for who they are dating. But, let’s be honest even that still has been reserved for a few. I respect that Amber is determined to also become rich and famous for the same, whether people want her to or not. If I had a daughter would I want her to grow up and be just like Amber Rose? No. I whole heartedly hope I can prevent her from having a difficult childhood, and succumbing to the fast money pitfalls that helped to create the persona of Amber Rose. However, what I do hope is that like Amber whatever hand she is dealt, she will play the hack out of. And also like Amber, won’t get up from the table to leave the game until she’s ready, and not any time before then. It wasn’t easy finding pictures of Amber Rose fully clothed, hence the head shots being used. There’s no doubt that as much as I encourage people to be aware of their self- worth from within, that I would be more comfortable tooting Amber Rose’s horn if she wore pant suits like Hilary Clinton, but she doesn’t. And, I’m adult enough to understand that she doesn’t have to be like me, doesn’t owe anyone an explanation, and that hopefully this isn’t her final chapter.

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Although her unrepentant, in your face, over the top sexual image has helped her gain popularity, I’m waiting to see what else she chooses to do with it. Hopefully, it does not keep her in a box and becomes the foundation that launches her into superstardom, with her business savvy being revealed. Their are plenty who have been successful at doing just that. One in particular, whom I didn’t want to mention, but to be fair I have to…Kim Kardashian.

Rachel Bryant Lundy

EMPIRE: Access to it’s RISE & FALL



There is much speculation about why this television show has become an overnight phenomenon. Why exactly does it appeal to so many? Is it the unapologetically flawed characters? Is it the allure of sex, music, and drugs? Is it because it offers a rare opportunity to observe a version of black family dynamics? My thoughts are a bit simpler. To me, it’s the same reason we consistently watch any other t.v. show whose characters we don’t completely agree with; it provides escapism from our real lives, and ummm……WE WANT IN! We want to be apart of this exclusive club, that with all its drama and backstabbing, still seems worth it because of the amount of power and influence at their disposal. Viewers are able to easily connect with parts of these complicated individuals that remind us of ourselves. They make us think if only we would have done things differently, we could have had a similar life. But, since many of us do not have the same trappings as Cookie or Boo Boo Kitty, we accept being able to watch those that do.

The transparency of Empire is alike to how a gangster rap album is for a teenager living in suburbia. It’s all in the details. For some it gives instructions on how to navigate life’s “gray areas”, and where the questions they dare not ask out loud get answered. Such as, what kind of attitude should a “Boss” of a million dollar company have? What clothes do you wear when you want to get your ex back in more ways than one? How can you have the courage to be proud of who you are and the life you live?

As often as many of us say we are indifferent to worldly status symbols, the opinions of others, and don’t want or need to be told anything, the outstanding ratings of this ground breaking show proves other wise. Not only do the masses want membership to an Empire lifestyle, they want mentorship on how to get it. And, if the only way we can come close to having it is by watching once a week, then so be it. But, while we are paying close attention, we also will be hoping that life imitates art as quickly as possible.



Besides the moments I feel could have gone without someone performing, I have no complaints about the series. I’m simply enjoying the ride that this “hip hopera” has me on, and glad to be able to enjoy a show that makes people want to miss church, get home early, and talk about at work next day. It’s about time!


Rachel Bryant Lundy