Positivity – Page 4 – BrideConfesses

Time Management: A Foundation for 2015 Success

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I’m happy to say the first week of the New Year was a productive one. As planned, I continued to expand on the efforts I started in 2014. However, I am realistic enough to know if I want this year to come close to what I would like, I’m going to need to become even more proactive and diligent with how I spend my time. Time Management is a topic I always come back to because routinely our schedules and priorities change and need to be reviewed.

It’s purpose is to ensure you are maximizing all the hours given in a day. The first step is to be honest with yourself about the time you have available. Then, figure out when you are the most productive. You may want to do things the last hour before you go to bed, but if you do your worst work late at night, then planning to do stuff at that time isn’t smart. Next, decide to prioritize or you will go crazy attempting to do everything. For example, ask yourself what are the most important items you must get done first, and what may also be important, but has less urgency or requires less time?

Time Management sounds like a simple concept, but doing it well demands major sacrifice. Often you will have to choose doing work at lunch, instead of hanging out with your co- workers. You may have to spend your evenings busy, instead of lying on the couch soaking up the latest reality t.v. drama. On the other hand, the alternative of choosing to be idle in these hours will prove to be a waste of your time and talent. My suggestion is to make a schedule for all 7 days of the week based on the hours you have free, and fill it in with the activities that best fit those times. If maintaining this process proves to be a challenge at first, that’s ok. Sticking to it will eventually get you in the habit of doing things as they have been arranged.

Finally, don’t forget to inform friends and family of your schedule changes so they can be supportive of it, and understand why you may no longer be as accessible. It’s only the second week in the New Year, if we set the right foundation down we are able to lay the groundwork that will allow us to have an awesome 2015.

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Let’s get it started!

Rachel Bryant Lundy

THIS CHRISTMAS….I’m Counting my Blessings!

Posted by: Rachel Bryant Lundy Posted on: December 23, 2014 blessings , christmas , christmas movies , family , friends , gifts , happiness , holiday

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I will never grow tired of movies like Home Alone, The Grinch who Stole Christmas, It’s a Wonderful Life, and any variation of these films I can find on the Lifetime channel. The funny thing is I’m just now noticing they have a common theme. Whether old or new, they all emphasize the importance of being grateful for what you have.

The main characters in these movies are usually frustrated, dissatisfied, or overwhelmed by their life and think everything would be easier if they had made different choices, been given different opportunities, or even come from different families. It takes an unforeseen event, usually a near death experience that causes them to become appreciative for the way things currently are. Eventually they realize the good in their life outweighs the bad significantly, and learn when it seems like things can’t get any worse they usually turn around for the better.

A major cause of distress for the characters is the false perspective they have about their life not being important. They are unaware of how much their being makes a difference in the lives of others, and believe their loved ones would be better off if they hadn’t been born at all. In reality, they are invaluable to those around them. It doesn’t matter if they have good or bad moments, have reached the heights of their profession, or become the person they planned to be.

This Christmas, some may be finding it hard to get excited about the things they already have, especially the ones no one can truly see. It is easy to take our health, family, and friends for granted. At times the trivial issues in life can get the most of our attention, and become a distraction to what really matters. So, before you start to feel bad about the way things are, maybe all you really need is a fresh pair of eyes to see things correctly, and help you count your many blessings.

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Merry Christmas!

Rachel Bryant Lundy

Peace on Earth & Goodwill?

Posted by: Rachel Bryant Lundy Posted on: December 3, 2014 ambition , growth , happiness , holidays , mental health , peace , positivity , self improvement

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Hmmmm peace, what exactly is that? And, why do some people radiate with what I think it is, while others entire being screams the opposite? Well, peace can mean something different for all of us. For me, it is a state of inner wellbeing that promotes clarity, satisfaction, and assuredness. The actions that I display on the outside, usually reflects the amount of peace I feel on the inside. I’m beginning to think it is the same for most of us.

One matter I have noticed that tends to bring the most interruption to this peace is how we’ve handled our past, mainly our bad decisions. Did we find strength to move past them, and use what we have learned to our advantage so our future will be better? Or, did we allow it to paralyze us, give away our ability to have the life we desire, and deeply resent others who dared to not be defeated by theirs? As of late I have less tolerance of those who made some bad choices, have consciously chosen to not be at peace with themselves and move forward, and who take out their frustration on anyone else around them that has.

Peace balances us. It makes our best parts shine the brightest, and minimizes the areas that don’t as much. It also allows you to see past yourself, realize your actions affect others, and that it’s not all about you. Peace helps you to be good to yourself and show others how you deserve to be treated. With it you are unstoppable, without it you are doomed. When you have this inner peace, it is typically also shown by extending good will towards men because there is not a focus on fear, anger, and regret. Basically peaceful people aren’t haters. I truly believe that it is doable for each of us to work towards finding our inner peace, and that it’s not too much to ask.

Yep, if I could give one thing to each person, peace would be it. I think it would make all the difference in the world.

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Rachel Bryant Lundy

BAG ENVY-A Sign of the Times

Posted by: Rachel Bryant Lundy Posted on: November 23, 2014 adult , competition , fashion , handbags , Kate Spade , pink

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“Is that a Kate Spade?” she abruptly asked me while interrupting the teacher who was speaking in the front of the classroom. Startled and somewhat unsure of the answer, I peaked in my bag and answered, “Ummm, it’s Henri Bendel.”

“I would have said Kate Spade” she countered.

“No- he’s good too”, I replied.

Immediately she hung her head down as everyone around us looked away. She wasn’t embarrassed about what she asked, just embarrassed that no one cared, and that she got a different response than what she expected. I decided to end the conversation and show how I felt about it with my silence. The habit of people asking someone “who” they are wearing is becoming all too common these days. If you are not a friend or close acquaintance the question can be very off putting. I definitely understand why some consider it to be in bad taste, and why the really wealthy don’t talk about money out loud at all. It’s just not any ones’ business.

It’s funny, the same conversation that annoyed me would have made my day a few years back. AWWW, YES! You’ve acknowledged that I am carrying a somewhat expensive bag. No, it’s not Chanel, nonetheless it also isn’t from a bargain department store. But even back then I never cared about what someone else wore, and after a while I would become a little uncomfortable with the attention if I could sense there was some shade behind the consistent “shout-outs” about what I was wearing. My mindset was simply, if I could get the best, I would. And I still see nothing wrong with that.

The exchange caused me to reflect on a decision I made over the weekend. Do I splurge and buy a bag I really love or do I get two I really like and need (in my opinion)? I hesitantly chose the latter. Afterwards I wasn’t that confident about my smart choice and tucked them away in our back room. The next day I pulled them out and discovered that I truly loved them. I was proud I decided to do something different. Because I’ve grown to care about more things than accessories, I am slightly removed from all the feelings of infatuation an expensive bag can bring. I now notice that some people just want to know what bag you have so they can attempt to imitate your style, the status they think you have, and either discredit or give credit to the individual wearing it. Like many, I too enjoy a good conversation about fashion, but discussing it just to keep score I can do without. It is unfortunate people don’t as quickly want to mimic kindness. I guess that cost too much?

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I’ve been the young girl who couldn’t afford to shop in the retail store where she worked and settled for knock offs. I’ve been the young lady that couldn’t wait to make expensive purchases on “real” things. I have nothing against “high end” or “low end”. I love all bags. But, I am careful not to confuse the bag with the person. Contrary to what the latest songs tell you, a woman with the latest bag and “mean shoe game” does not qualify them to be a part of any special group of people. We are already qualified, and shouldn’t need a bag to convince ourselves of that or anyone else.

A person wearing a big ticket item and having other tangible goods does not make them a better person or a bad person. And by all means please don’t take it as a badge of honor declaring how much money you think they have, often times it is quite the opposite.

Rachel Bryant Lundy