• Home
  • 2014
  • September

2014: Last Quarter Standing



Believe it or not, as competitive as I am, and having grown up with brothers who were athletes, I’m not the biggest sports fan. Whenever I do happen to tune into a game, it’s a big one. Oddly, my eyes do not look for the scoreboard first. It is my nature to instead check and see how much time is left until the game is over. In my opinion, how much time is left determines the level of suspense that is happening in the game. It also lets me know if I have time to browse other channels, or if I need to keep it right there and give it my undivided attention. Like the end of a sports game, the end of the year can bring similar feelings. With just 3 months to go before the year is over, this is typically a time when people either decide to ramp up their efforts in making their year successful, or they decide to be content with the way things have turned out so far.

The decision to stay complacent is usually because of the short period of time left, but short periods are deceiving. It’s not how much time you have but what you do with it, and how you manage it. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that how much time you are given will control the outcome of what you want to do, or that you need to wait until next year to accomplish what you can now.

Keep in mind that how this year ends determines how 2015 will start. You have the choice of starting ahead of the game and only needing to expand on what you have begun, or you can end up having to waste time by starting things that could have been done previously. Making the most out of the rest of your year doesn’t always have to be based on huge goals and overwhelming task. It can be as simple as picking back up good habits you may have discontinued as the months passed by.

For those of us that will make the most out of this year, we are going to use the remaining weeks not to intimidate, but to motivate ourselves. So, in case you were thinking of throwing in the towel and begin to plan how 2015 will be, let me encourage you to not leave 2014 yet. It’s not over. Make the proactive choice to resolve what needs to be taken care of, and begin what you should start now.



Remember, the games that everyone talks about have the best endings. More often than not what made it a great game, is that with little time left, a team decided to still play like it had just started. And, their efforts  were well rewarded.

Rachel Bryant Lundy

YOUR MOVE: The Game of Living the “Good” Life

good vs evil imagesYSZ5W9MR (1)


As usual I am writing about a topic completely different than I started because last week ended on a strange note, triggering me to reflect on the person I am or trying to become. Although I know I’m certainly on the right path, moving in this direction has it’s share of difficult moments. It’s not easy being independent in a world full of followers. It’s not easy standing strong in a world where people readily give in. It’s not easy having standards when people consistently lack integrity. It’s not easy having an authentic desire to help people while others just want to be known for it. And, it’s not easy confronting issues when you could just avoid them. In short, it’s very hard to be me, and I’m sure many feel the same.

I will admit it would be much easier if I was perfect. And, it would make the choice of being who I am seem obviously beneficial. But unfortunately, I am very flawed with no super human powers. I make mistakes, mess up, and feel like I should have handled something better almost every day. I’m great in a few areas, not so good in others, and mediocre in everything else. I can’t even swear by modesty and let that be my “thing”, or act like I don’t care about material things since high quality items appeal to apart of me. And because I am very protective of the people and things that mean the most to me, my inner circle is very small.

Anyone with these human inadequacies coupled with not following the crowd become targets for being judged, or make people question just why we chose to be this way. A way that tends to make people notice everything good but remember everything bad. So what do we get out of it? Why do we strategically move ourselves in this fashion? Well, while it may be tough, this is why I do it.

I’m kind because I like to be treated kindly.

I’m respectful because I don’t like disrespect.

I don’t cheat because I wouldn’t want to be cheated or cheated on.

I don’t treat people badly because I wouldn’t want to be mistreated.

I thoroughly try to think about how it feels to be in someone else’s shoes when I am interacting with them. Genuinely caring about other people without an agenda can take a lot of time and energy until it becomes a habit, especially if we were never taught that we should.

I do believe in the law of sewing and reaping, so I know while I may want for some things, there is plenty ahead. However, I’m not choosing to be who I am because I expect anything in return. I am this way because there is no other way I should be. Being “good” should not be thought of as an afterthought if no one else is around, or if there is nothing else to do. Being “good” should be what we all are striving to be.

Given the responsibility that comes with this way of living, what helps you to be more accepting of yourself and the path you chose is understanding your value and the power that you have to influence and encourage others to do the same. When you do, you won’t question the path your on as much. You won’t compromise when it seems easier, and you won’t put others expectations over what you know is best.

While on this journey we will need to remember to not be so hard on ourselves and others. Sometimes we may not always make the best move, that doesn’t make us weak or unable to handle the game of “good”. Sometimes others may not be used to someone so unique, that doesn’t make them “bad”. And, it certainly doesn’t mean that they eventually won’t help you win at being “good”. Game on.

Rachel Bryant Lundy

NEW BEGINNINGS: An original yet familiar chapter

openbook image


I know, I know, I know it’s been a while, but for just cause. Since I’m a little rusty, I will try to keep this short and sweet. I am very happy to say that all the previous post I have written about preparing for change have come to fruition, and manifested itself into a new job with awesome potential! Even though I am thrilled and so grateful for the opportunity, I must admit that adjusting to this change has been a challenge, and truthfully a lot harder than I thought. Unfortunately, because my eyes and ears are wide open I have been able to feel every angst and bitter truth that comes with it. And as always, I want to share what I have learned.

What I’ve found to be most hilarious about change is things may end up not being as new as you imagined. There may be quite a few similarities to the past for a few reasons. First, because when it comes to progression or lack thereof, a lot of people and businesses take the same steps in an attempt to move forward. Secondly, there really is little originality in the ways company’s use to foster employee engagement, in the catty and plastic personalities of peers that are worn as a badge of honor as a result from watching reality television, or the resentment that is given by those who are thankful for the position, but wish it would have been handed to them sooner. And lastly, as the popular saying goes, there is nothing new under the sun. What also is quite humorous, is how events and people that you never want to think of again somehow find a way to show back up. And, ends up proving that in order for things to stop haunting you from your past, you need to put an end to it mentally so when it shows up again it won’t have the same effect.

Since change in one area may prove to be beneficial, it is easy for us to begin to think that it’s natural order for the other parts of our lives to follow which actually may not need changing. For instance, if for years you have worked hard becoming a person you are proud of, you have to safeguard yourself from allowing new environments to take you backwards. It’s easy to be good in the same old places, the harder thing is to not let a new environments become a negative influence. While a new start may be just what the doctor ordered, a new you isn’t.

New beginnings can also lead you to confirm how you want your next chapter to end, if you are getting closer to it or farther away, and if you previously wasted time trying to fit in at a place that you never should have been. Not too many things, if any deserve the best years of your life just because you are afraid to take a leap of faith. And although it could be a good change, it may not be good enough and it could force you to seek even harder how to make the change that will allow you to become who you want to be. But no matter how good the new is, it still comes with new crap to deal with. New personalities, new agendas, new spirits to adapt to or fight off, and new temptations to resist that previously did not pose as a problem.

What I have learned the most about new beginnings is that change can be great, yet very humbling. Because what undoubtedly ends up being reaffirmed is that you will still need what allowed you to survive before, if not more of it. In other words your past experiences are just as important as your future ones. We need them to help us navigate the new territory.

It takes courage to try something new, even if it is obviously for the better. And yes, it’s a scary thought thinking of possibly having to eat your words, and regret your decisions. But most change if well thought out is for the better, and any bumps in the road like any other can be figured out over time, as long as you keep in mind that with anything there is good and bad.

Ultimately, what defines a new beginning as successful is if you can see how you will be rewarded in the long run. Keep this in mind when things go slightly unexpected, are boringly predictable, or completely different than imagined because it’s worth it!

Here’s to endless possibilities…

Rachel Bryant Lundy